December 26th, 2008 by BlogRmom

How many of these do you by? I’ve seen so many of the Celebs fad diets on the cover of OK! Magazine, People, etc and I am beginning to wonder how many of them actually are legite. How many of them really work and how many of them are just a lie and the celebs really are just working out and cutting back. Some of the diets include a hard workout and some include diet pills, like Fentraphen. I personally have dealt with a weight loss journey. It took me a little better then 6 months to lose 26 pounds. I was on a strict diet and worked out at least 3 times a week. I think that it is possible for you to lose more then that in a shorter time, but is it healthy? I would have to question that. I know my doctors questioned the loss and they were concerned because it was fast. I don’t think it was that fast. But that is because I was going through the dieting and the excersing and what not… Anyone else have input?

October 2nd, 2008 by BlogRmom

It’s October. It’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month!! I’ve put up my Breast Cancer Awareness layout and went PINK for October. I urge all of my readers to take this month, and EVERY month, serious and hug your boobies!! Do you checks!! This is something that is very treatable if it’s detected early. Let me share a few very eye opening statistics with you: Aside from non-melanoma skin cancer, breast cancer is the most common form of cancer in women. Breast cancer is the number one cause of cancer death in Hispanic women. It is the second most common cause of cancer death in white, black, Asian/Pacific Islander, and American Indian/Alaska Native women. In 2004 (the most recent year numbers are available), 186,772 women and 1,815 men were diagnosed with breast cancer - 40,954 women and 362 men died from breast cancer. It was The 6 highest cause of death in woman!! Statistics taken from here.

This is so heartbreaking. I am not saying that we can stop this 100% but I whole heartly believe we can reduce these numbers by early detection and self exams. I personally do mine, and I do them EVERY month not just in October… I encourage everyone else to do the same.

I went on Amazon and found some neat little Breast Cancer Awareness goodies… I found an adorable Care Bear that is a special edition. Is this not the most adorable ever?!?!

I linked the image to the item in case you want to check it out. I want to order this bag…

I love it!! Again the image is linked!! I would so use it at the gym!! I need a new gym bacg too. So If any of my readers are feeling fab and want to donate it to me!! LOL I would forever love you!! Okay well that’s enough of me and my Public Service Announcement!! Seriously girls… a few minutes could save you a lifetime!! *wink*

In other news, I seen information about a Subway Franchise. I think this would be the coolest business to have. You could have some serious business. And it’s healthy!!! That is right up my ally!!

September 14th, 2008 by BlogRmom

It’s a boring weekend here. Not too much happening. My hubby has to work all weekend so I am home with the kids. I hate weekends like that, but it’s expecially bad this weekend.  I’ve been in the house all week long because I’ve been sick and this weekend we really can’t do anything. It’s raining and it’s not looking promising for tomorrow to be not either. Oh well. It will certainly not go down as a weekend ruined. I am planning to tackle a few of the chores I let slide all week long because I was sick. I managed a couple loads of laundry today and I mopped the dining room floor. I also spent some time online catching up on emails and other commitments I had here. So that was nice.

On another note, I talked to my mom today. Her and my dad are pretty upset. They are hurt and a bunch of other emotions. My dad has not talked to my brother since he moved in here. My mom has but my brother has been pretty closed. He’s been in my opinion a little rude at times. He does feel like he’s on his own and he shouldn’t need to rely on them for things. So he is trying not too.  However, he is taking things, in my opinion, a little over the top. My mom brought him over some new t-shirts, socks, and boxers. He was rude and told her he didn’t need them and he didn’t want them. He DID need them. She also brought him a pair of work pants. He did the same thing again. She’s hurt. I understand. I told her to stop bringing him things, but at the same time she doesn’t want too. She feels bad and she is all sorts of hurt because he is not at home. She’s not ready to let go… she’s sad… she cries alot. I am torn… I don’t know how to act and be. I try to call her and my dad and give them updates with how he’s doing so they don’t worry, even though I know they still will. I am also trying to be there for my brother too. I just don’t know.

On Thursday my brother got in an accident. He may need to contact a truck accident lawyer. He hid a school bus. YEAH! He drives a tiny little geo metro and he hit a SCHOOL BUS! Granted he was only going like 2mph and so was the bus, but it was still the fact of the matter. BOTH of them were at fault and I guess no tickets were issued but my mom and dad are worried. They don’t want it to effect their insurance. See, they have to cover him under THEIR insurance until he is 18. Then he can be on his own. I guess we will see what happens. He is okay and the car is okay and the bus is okay and everyone inside is too.

I tried to dye my hair today too. Red in the front. This isn’t a first time. I’ve had it done in the salon before but I wanted it a brighter red. I also wanted the red “chunk” to be bigger. Well I managed to get the chunk bigger but I didn’t get it brighter. I need to go to the salon supply store I think and find some TRUE red color. It will probably be a bright shock then though, but we will see. My natural color being brown it really blends in and it’s hard to see. Anyhow… Last night was a long long night. I am looking forward to getting a full nights sleep tonight. The dog was up last night and my friend’s little girl was here and she was up at 3am giggling in the living room. It was a long night… anyhow… I am off to rest before the week starts tomorrow… I can’t WAIT for school tomorrow!!

September 10th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I think the line I’ve said 1000 and 1 times on this blog has been “Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.” And it’s true. I’ve learned yet something new and rather disturbing to me. 2 of my good friends have recently been effected by adoption. They both read this blog, however their situation is MUCH different then mine. So I am not going to elaborate on that. But it did get me to thinking and I did have a talk with my mom. Back when I was a child we went through things to have my step father adopt me. But I find out now it never went through. My bio father was incarcerated at the time and for whatever the reasons the papers were never signed (with a notary) and given back to my mom and step father on time for court ANY of the times. I don’t know if this meant my bio dad was contesting it or what. My bio dad is pond scum. When I was 18 I looked him up. I carried a relationship on with him for about 1 year. He never called me. I called him. He wanted everything, but put no effort. He was excited to say I was his daughter, but in the same breath treated his new wife’s children (who were NOT his at all) better then me. I didn’t want to deal with it so I stopped calling him. Around this time I got pregnant with my daughter. He got wind of the news and started calling ALL the time. It was stalkerish and weird. I finally answered one day and asked him not to call. I wrote him a letter that basically told him my feelings and that he was NO father I wanted and the only father I knew was my step father, who was MY father and that for all sakes and purposes my child would only know THIS man as her grandpa. And it’s always been that way. Well see my bio father is a sneaky self centered asshole. He would do the very thing I am about to say. In the state of Wisconsin, we have “Grandparents Rights“. This statute states “If one or both parents of a minor are deceased and the minor is in the custody of the surviving parent or any other person, a grandparent or stepparent of the minor may petition for visitation privileges with respect to the minor, whether or not the person with custody is married. The grandparent or stepparent may file the petition in a guardianship or temporary guardianship proceeding under this chapter that affects the minor or may file the petition to commence an independent action under this chapter.” This honestly scares the SHIT of of me. I do not want him to ever see my children, let alone have visitation with them, and OH MY custody of them?!?! That would KILL me (if I wasn’t already dead).

There are ALOT of stipulations that go along with this law and it’s not as easy as it may seem, but the fact is, it very well could happen. If something happened to me, I could see my bio dad trying this. I could VERY MUCH see him trying this. Travis would fight him tooth and nail and may even put himself out on the line with the law because he knows how I feel about my bio father (who by the way was incarcerated for abuse and rap). I would never EVER want him NEAR my kids. However, if something happened to both Travis and I and the kids went to the person assigned in the Living Will that we had made, we can’t guarantee a fight wouldn’t be. That brings me to now. My adoption with my stepfather never went through. So here I sit. I’ve contacted a lawyer and I am making sure everything is all legal, but it appears the first thing that I have to do is file to have my bio father’s name removed off my birth certificate. I can do this on my own because I am over the age of 18. I do not know if there are fees or if my bio father will be notified. I do not know if he contests if that matters since I am a legal adult. The lawyer was actually going to look into some things and going to have to call me back. So I am awaiting that call. I can really leave it at this. With no father’s name on the birth certificate. I really chose not to do that though. I want to honor what my parents wanted and I want my step father to know that I do appreciate him being my father all of my life and that it HAS made and impact on me. I want him to know that my kids don’t just call him “grandpa” but that he really IS grandpa!! It’s important to me, to our family. So I will go ahead and add him to my birth certificate and finalize all of that with the adoption. I am just in shock. I am just scared. I don’t know which way to turn. I am amazed that I never thought about this before. I am scared if  something happens that this bio father freak would use his rights to defy me and everything I’ve ever believed in and taught my children. This just has to happen. It’s all too much to bear!!

On another note… I’ve been incredibly sick for the last 2 days. I am starting to feel a bit better now. The ringing in my ears has stopped, but my poor headache is still there. I finally ate some soup today. And I’ve been drinking orange juice throughout the day.  I feel run down.  I’ve slept so much in the last 2 days that I can’t even begin to count the hours. It’s crazy!! My hubby is off today and tomorrow. It’s a good thing because I can fully re-coop and have him here to help. Our wine came today from wine of the month club. Usually that is a good day for us. We will have a nice dinner and we will enjoy a glass of wine, but not tonight. It will probably sit on the cupboard for a week until I am feeling better. I don’t even have the urge. I haven’t even have Xavier this week because I’ve been so sick. Okay well I am off to lay back down. I just thought I’d blog this quickly while the thought was fresh and I was waiting for the meds to kick in again. I’ll be back to update more when I have more to say!!

September 3rd, 2008 by BlogRmom

It’s a scary thought… A police helicopter flying overhead, so low and loud you can’t hear anything, your lamps are shaking, your street is closed, all streets around you are closed, when you leave your house your vehicle is searched, when you look outside it’s luminated with red and blue lights, K-9’s are up and down the streets and dogs are barking like crazy, police cars are flying up and down the roads at high rates of speeds… these are the sounds in my neighborhood tonight. A neighborhood that is generally quite, mo trouble, very little police activity (with the occassional speeder that gets pulled over). It has me quite worried and quite scared to be honest. What’s going on in my neighborhood? Well… A County Inmate has escaped from the van that was transporting him from court back to jail. The story is also feature here and here. As of 9:30pm CST the Inmate has not yet been caught. He’s on the lose. I am scared. For my family, myself, my home, my belongings, my property. How can you not be? However, I do have an alarm on my house. It may be over reacting, but I did call the security company and bumped my security. I went from “call me and ask the password” to “send immediate help” which is what most people do when they go on vacation… However, with the situation at hand and having 2 small children in my home, I opted to error on the side of caution. So I set the “send immediate help” in effect until they either A. catch the inmate or B. believe he’s left the area. So should my garage door or service door be “popped” during the night, a window broke, anything, it will sound the alarm which will immediatly also signal a 911 message and alert the police department to my address. I feel safer having this service. The alarm is one thing I do NOT regret purchasing. In fact, I love the security it give my family and I.

On another note… My daughter started SECOND grade on Tuesday. She’s excited as can be!! She’s loving it. She’s having a great time and she’s going well. Homework ALREADY!! It hasn’t been too bad though! We also have the first fundraiser of the year! Seroogy’s Candy Bars! Those are a favorite here for everyone so I am not too worried. I know we will sell them all without much of a problem. Alex had orientation today. He starts school on Friday. He’s excited. I still worry about him.  He was very shy when we were there today, but I hope he does okay. I think he will.  He might have a rough couple days. But overall, he really should do okay. Mariah will be in the same school and we DO know the teacher’s aide so hopefully that helps him out. If not we don’t live far and they CAN call me and I will come and get him. I just really want him to spread his wings and do this… I want him to be okay!

Anyhow… news on me… not much new… I was looking online for some acne cures. I love the proactive results, but I don’t have acne that is that bad. Mine is spuratic, so I need something I don’t have to use DAILY. Just went I need it… spot treatment kinda thing. I’m also trying to “adjust” to my new schedule. I haven’t been sleeping until 10am. Because the kids are in school I’ve been up at 7am each day. So that is REALLY a change for me. HARD change.  I can’t wait to sleep in!! I’ve also been in a freenzy making homemade BREAD!! Cinnamon Raisin is my favorite, however, I just make hubby come Chocolate Chocolate Chip and he totally loved that. I made a loaf of regular wheat too. It’s so yummy, BUT it is making me work overtime at the gym… UGH! Okay… well I am off to grab a couple new ringtones for my phone and then take my night time pills. We will see about some sleep… Still pretty active and LOUD outside my house… *SIGH*