January 1st, 2009 by BlogRmom

How many of my readers are addicted? My entire family is lost… they are gone… they’ve been sucked in to the PS3 I swear… I don’t have any family left. They have found rock band, a total of 2 guitars, a microphone, drums and a game… it’s horrible. The kids have learned how to play it so well, but man oh man!! I swear!! They are missing in action. Some day… I hope they return!!

November 23rd, 2008 by BlogRmom

So the kids informed me that they are making their wish lists for Santa. My son boldly stated “Santa said I could have ANYTHING I wanted.”  Oh really?!? I think I need to chat with Santa!! While my daughter took the conservative route… “I’ll just have…” and started a list a mile long. Oh they are a riot I tell you!! Then I get to hubby and here’s the convo:

He says “I just NEED one thing from Santa.”

Okay I’ll bite…

Me: “What’s that babe?”

Him: “A Slingbox!”

Me: “Why does that sound like something you are going torture me with?”

Him: “Oh torture is not the word!” as he walks away with this evil laugh.

So I look it up online… I think *I* need this gadget more then HE does!! It’s like taking your DVR from home with you wherever you go. Now if you know me you’ll know that my DVR is right under God in my world. I LOVE it SOOOOO much!!! I think I might actually buy him one just so *I* can reap the benefits too… MUAH!!

November 7th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I swear these days have really been FLYING by!! I have no idea whatis going on from one day to the next. I am lost in the world. I don’t know how to get out of the tornado. Honestly it’s so wierd.  I remember ever day… I remember exactly what I do, what I need to do tomorrow and I’ve gotten so much done, but it really feels like time is just FLYING before me. I have no control. I do, but it feels like I don’t. I don’t know how to explain it.

I’ve done some shopping. I needed  to get myself  some fall clothes. I have no sweaters. So since that weather is FINALLY here I went and grabbed myself some fall sweaters. I got a good deal on alot of them. I headed to Kohl’s. It’s a great store. Probably my favorite of the moment, lol. They keep sending me $10 gift certificates in the mail. So I got $10.00 off my total plus everything was on sale and I even got a bunch of stuff that was on clearance or sale. So I ended up with like 5 shirts for $40. It was nice. I need a new frying pan too. A LARGE LARGE one for cooking veggies in. I found a paella pan that was nice. They seem large enough for what I need. I am still not decided yet though. For now I am using the griddle. 

We are getting ready for Thanksgiving here. I guess the family has no big plans. Which is nice. Frankly my hubby has to work and I am just not down with having to run from house to house to house this year by myself. So I would much rather have a small low key turkey dinner here for the 5 of us (our family and my brother that lives here). I think that would be much easier on us. And I know personally my hubby would prefer it too. Okay… well I’ve got to feed the dog and fold a load of laundry and then get 2 kiddos bathed…. It never ends!!

September 27th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I thought I would title my post that since when I signed into my admin panel to post Askmit told me “Today was my lucky day” and it really did sound fitting. Let me explain. Today my husband is off. He got up early because he wanted to go to the gym with his friend. His friend needed a shoulder and they thought they’d go use the sauna and then the treadmills and talk. No big deal.  He took the kids with and stuck them in the daycare there. That ment I was home alone and I go to sleep in. I surely did too… until 10am!! I am so LUCKY! I love sleep so this was on top of my list! Now Mariah is over at MIL’s with hubby’s supervision getting her haircut. I’ve given orders and let me tell you they better NOT be broken!! Remember the hair cut fight? Oh yeah!! She’s then going to keep them all day as a little “payment” for hubby to take out some cabinents for her on Monday. So looks like I am KID free today!! I would say that ranks up there with LUCKY - what do you think??? I don’t really have anything to do today. I was going to see if I could compare auto insurance quotes on some of the online places and see if they are cheaper then what we are paying monthly for our 2 vehicles now. These darn commercials I see all the time, they have me thinking we may be paying too much  however we’ve been with State Farm for the better part of 10 years and it’s comfort. I do think I may be able to get a better rate though. I just don’t know. Okay well I suppose I should move off this chair and get something done… no kids means I am free to do whatever, so that means I should start by getting up and getting out of my pajamas, huh?

September 10th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I think the line I’ve said 1000 and 1 times on this blog has been “Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.” And it’s true. I’ve learned yet something new and rather disturbing to me. 2 of my good friends have recently been effected by adoption. They both read this blog, however their situation is MUCH different then mine. So I am not going to elaborate on that. But it did get me to thinking and I did have a talk with my mom. Back when I was a child we went through things to have my step father adopt me. But I find out now it never went through. My bio father was incarcerated at the time and for whatever the reasons the papers were never signed (with a notary) and given back to my mom and step father on time for court ANY of the times. I don’t know if this meant my bio dad was contesting it or what. My bio dad is pond scum. When I was 18 I looked him up. I carried a relationship on with him for about 1 year. He never called me. I called him. He wanted everything, but put no effort. He was excited to say I was his daughter, but in the same breath treated his new wife’s children (who were NOT his at all) better then me. I didn’t want to deal with it so I stopped calling him. Around this time I got pregnant with my daughter. He got wind of the news and started calling ALL the time. It was stalkerish and weird. I finally answered one day and asked him not to call. I wrote him a letter that basically told him my feelings and that he was NO father I wanted and the only father I knew was my step father, who was MY father and that for all sakes and purposes my child would only know THIS man as her grandpa. And it’s always been that way. Well see my bio father is a sneaky self centered asshole. He would do the very thing I am about to say. In the state of Wisconsin, we have “Grandparents Rights“. This statute states “If one or both parents of a minor are deceased and the minor is in the custody of the surviving parent or any other person, a grandparent or stepparent of the minor may petition for visitation privileges with respect to the minor, whether or not the person with custody is married. The grandparent or stepparent may file the petition in a guardianship or temporary guardianship proceeding under this chapter that affects the minor or may file the petition to commence an independent action under this chapter.” This honestly scares the SHIT of of me. I do not want him to ever see my children, let alone have visitation with them, and OH MY custody of them?!?! That would KILL me (if I wasn’t already dead).

There are ALOT of stipulations that go along with this law and it’s not as easy as it may seem, but the fact is, it very well could happen. If something happened to me, I could see my bio dad trying this. I could VERY MUCH see him trying this. Travis would fight him tooth and nail and may even put himself out on the line with the law because he knows how I feel about my bio father (who by the way was incarcerated for abuse and rap). I would never EVER want him NEAR my kids. However, if something happened to both Travis and I and the kids went to the person assigned in the Living Will that we had made, we can’t guarantee a fight wouldn’t be. That brings me to now. My adoption with my stepfather never went through. So here I sit. I’ve contacted a lawyer and I am making sure everything is all legal, but it appears the first thing that I have to do is file to have my bio father’s name removed off my birth certificate. I can do this on my own because I am over the age of 18. I do not know if there are fees or if my bio father will be notified. I do not know if he contests if that matters since I am a legal adult. The lawyer was actually going to look into some things and going to have to call me back. So I am awaiting that call. I can really leave it at this. With no father’s name on the birth certificate. I really chose not to do that though. I want to honor what my parents wanted and I want my step father to know that I do appreciate him being my father all of my life and that it HAS made and impact on me. I want him to know that my kids don’t just call him “grandpa” but that he really IS grandpa!! It’s important to me, to our family. So I will go ahead and add him to my birth certificate and finalize all of that with the adoption. I am just in shock. I am just scared. I don’t know which way to turn. I am amazed that I never thought about this before. I am scared if  something happens that this bio father freak would use his rights to defy me and everything I’ve ever believed in and taught my children. This just has to happen. It’s all too much to bear!!

On another note… I’ve been incredibly sick for the last 2 days. I am starting to feel a bit better now. The ringing in my ears has stopped, but my poor headache is still there. I finally ate some soup today. And I’ve been drinking orange juice throughout the day.  I feel run down.  I’ve slept so much in the last 2 days that I can’t even begin to count the hours. It’s crazy!! My hubby is off today and tomorrow. It’s a good thing because I can fully re-coop and have him here to help. Our wine came today from wine of the month club. Usually that is a good day for us. We will have a nice dinner and we will enjoy a glass of wine, but not tonight. It will probably sit on the cupboard for a week until I am feeling better. I don’t even have the urge. I haven’t even have Xavier this week because I’ve been so sick. Okay well I am off to lay back down. I just thought I’d blog this quickly while the thought was fresh and I was waiting for the meds to kick in again. I’ll be back to update more when I have more to say!!