September 30th, 2008 by BlogRmom

As the boredom of the day strikes me I surf the net. I often fi, mind myself reading all kinds of celebrity gossip and news about celebs. I don’t know why I am so “star” struck but I am. Not new to me or to most of my readers is the news of Clay Aiken. I think he’s an incredible person and this news doesn’t change that at all. I am hoping that the rest of the world is as open minded as the people that surround him. The news about Heather Locklear did shock me however. I didn’t expect her to check out of rehab and when she did I figured things wouldn’t be good. However, this is just “weird” I guess mostly because she does have a support system. Who knows. That mug shot surely is a beauty though!! I also read about Janet Jackson. I am wondering what is going on with her. Still nothing released on what is going on!! I hope she’s okay and it’s something minor.

Anyhow… I’m battling some migraines again. I have no idea why, but they seemly have gotten worse. I’ve called the neurologist and they’ve instructed me to take some different meds in a different order so we will  see if that helps. I haven’t changed anything else (other then my stress has increased) so I don’t know what else I could possibly do. These have gotten bad though. I never got the nausea with them before. I have been lately though and it’s bad. Mariah had a 1/2 day of school today so I had to get her from school at noon and then run to Wal-mart and pick up pictures and a new micro sd card. I needed one for my phone. I need to be able to store windows documents and things on there… and since they had a special on them, I picked up 2. They come with adapters so I can plug them right up to the computer to sync them. That makes life easy!!

Okay well I am making a turkey and potatoes and other goodies for dinner… time to getting peeling and what not. Later bloggers!!

September 27th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I thought I would title my post that since when I signed into my admin panel to post Askmit told me “Today was my lucky day” and it really did sound fitting. Let me explain. Today my husband is off. He got up early because he wanted to go to the gym with his friend. His friend needed a shoulder and they thought they’d go use the sauna and then the treadmills and talk. No big deal.  He took the kids with and stuck them in the daycare there. That ment I was home alone and I go to sleep in. I surely did too… until 10am!! I am so LUCKY! I love sleep so this was on top of my list! Now Mariah is over at MIL’s with hubby’s supervision getting her haircut. I’ve given orders and let me tell you they better NOT be broken!! Remember the hair cut fight? Oh yeah!! She’s then going to keep them all day as a little “payment” for hubby to take out some cabinents for her on Monday. So looks like I am KID free today!! I would say that ranks up there with LUCKY – what do you think??? I don’t really have anything to do today. I was going to see if I could compare auto insurance quotes on some of the online places and see if they are cheaper then what we are paying monthly for our 2 vehicles now. These darn commercials I see all the time, they have me thinking we may be paying too much  however we’ve been with State Farm for the better part of 10 years and it’s comfort. I do think I may be able to get a better rate though. I just don’t know. Okay well I suppose I should move off this chair and get something done… no kids means I am free to do whatever, so that means I should start by getting up and getting out of my pajamas, huh?

September 24th, 2008 by BlogRmom

How’s that for a heavty post title? LOL I know I know… I can’t just have everything be POSITIVE so I do have to RANT some!! I am so annoyed with the amaount of SPAM in my mailbox and the amount of SPAM in my comment box on my blog. It’s really a good thing that Askimet stops it. I swear. I would have all sorts of links to places I assure you, you don’t want to visit. Places I don’t visit. I roll my eyes at the very thought they would even go out SPAMMING that type of link… for pete’s sakes!! The stuff in my email box is not any better. Thanks to the Gmail filters not much gets through. However, from time to time I have to go check my SPAM mail online to make sure some of use doesn’t get caught, because that does happen… and I have the joy of reading the subject lines… Please tell me this… When they include your email address followed by the words “you are stupid” in the subject line, do they REALLY think you are going to open that?!?! I mean come on now!?!?! Seriously… I won’t even go there… we all know how stupid some people REALLY are!! And it sure as hell isn’t me!! If you’re planning to SPAM me and want me to read it including something like THAT in the subject line surely isn’t going to work!! LOL

Moving on to bigger and better things… I am officially going to announce my decision here for president. I’ve decided who I will vote for. I’ve decided to not debate so I won’t post the why’s and how’s and whatnot’s, but I’ve decided that I will post my decision as I would also like to post a blinkie in honor of my choice. I will be doing that today!! I am proud to say that I will be voting for John McCain and VP Palin. Again, we all have a choice, yours is not mine, mine is not yours… respect mine, I respect yours… However, I am voting for McCain. Here’s my new blinkage:

I’ll add it to my side bar shortly!! Onto the next round of business at the table… LOL I can’t actually vacation for a while to come yet…likely summer, but I am still scoping out places and getting ready to plan the next one. Another place I’ve looked into is Branson Missouri. I had NO idea there was so much to do there. They have theme parks, live music, water parks, museums, magic shows and so much more. They even have a multitude of different vacation packages so you can get everything all in one. That makes it so much easier to plan a vacation. Buy a package and everything is all included in there… Lodging, food and entertainment. You can get a few different packages based on how much food and entertainment you want and how long you want to stay. I love it when you can get an all in one package. It makes things so much easier then trying to build your own and forgetting things. Of course, once you are there, you can always add on because they do have SO much to do, but it will give you a great variety of things to do. This is certainly on the top of our list for our vacation in summer!!!

Okay bloggers, this housework is not doing itself… SIGH!!

September 20th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I was so bored today… I just did a few graphics things and I read through the paper. I really hate reading the paper these days. I swear. Some of the stuff simply amazes me. Can you believe that a mother actually used her daughter’s information to enroll in highschool to try out for the cheerleading squad… I am glad that she was charged and is in jail and was convicted. Good for the law!! And then we have some underage kids drinking. Two of the boys assaulted a girl at a high school home party. I can’t explain in a few words all of why I hate this situation, but I am sure you, my readers, get it. I am so sick to even think that this stuff happens. I swear. There is a reason for the drinking age to be 21. Sigh! Anyhow.

Tomorrow we are heading to the gym. There are a ton of people at that place that really need some fat burners along with the gym!! I don’t mean to be mean, people really are there working hard, but I see some people and think WOW… anyhow… After that in the morning we are heading to Travis’ aunt’s house. Him and his dad are going to install a sink for her and the kids and I will probably enjoy the lake and the scenery. She is very old fashion and doesn’t have a TV or any electronics so it’s always wierd to go out there. LOL But I will be okay. I will survive. That is pretty much it for the weekend here. Not a ton of excitement, but I will take the camera and perhaps I can take some nice pictures!! That would be nice.

September 20th, 2008 by BlogRmom

Well the weekend has arrived!! It’s a good thing!! I hate the week. Waking up is not my fortay at all, so anytime I can sleep in is a good deal!! LOL Weekend mean no school, but they also mean that my kids will be fighting more… I don’t know, it shouldn’t be too bad because my hubby is off this week. He called me tonight and said he was taking vacation tomorrow and he is scheduled off on Sunday… So that means he’s off all weekend!! YAY!! So I am happy about that. We won’t be doing too much here though. No major plans.  I would really like to do a little something, but as you all know with the stock market crashing like it did it’s been hitting the economey hard and it’s hitting us hard too. We have alot of stuff that is due and alot of stuff to pay and seems like never enough money to pay it. UGH!!

Anyhow… A friend of mine called me today to inform me that a friend from school had been in an accident. His obituary is in the paper here. The full one to be in there on Sunday. He was no drinking as alot of people may think, however he was not wearing a helmet. However, it’s a decision that *WE* as motorcycle riders make. It’s not a law, it’s a choice. There are people that wear helmets and STILL end up passing away from their injuries, so it really doesn’t make a HUGE difference in my opinion.

I want to take a vacation to the St. Martin villa rentals. I swear I need a vacation to get away from it all. They are so sweet and so homey looking. I could go there and hide away for a week!! It would be so nice!! How many of you want to come with me?

September 17th, 2008 by BlogRmom

First, big news… this is the 100th post here… YAY!!!! How exciting for me. Okay, onto other news… today hubby was off so we took a motorcycle ride. It’s probably the last one of the season, that is UNLESS we manage to pull off the deal that we tried for today. We drove all the way to Oshkosh and we looked at new motorcycles. We found one we really liked and hubby loved. So if all goes as planned we would pick it up tomorrow. We could just need to bring the title, proof of the car insurance, and the old motorcycle as a trade-in. It’s a brand new 2006 Yahmaha. It has 40 miles on it. It’s dark blue. I like it alot. MUCH smoother ride then we have now. They are giving us $2700 for our motorcycle and we only owe $1600 on it. So that is nice… the new bike it only $7000 so that means we only need a loan for like $6000 (a little more with taxes and license). Currently we pay about $150 a month on the loan so if we can stay at or around that and just extend the payment out a few years it will be all good. I am excited, but at the same time, I am not holding any hopes… just in case it falls through. It likely could because we already do have 2 vehicle loans and we really only have ONE income… since my business (photography) doesn’t have a TAX ID yet, it’s not an “official” income…  so that’s that…

The kids are in bed now and we were on the bike from 11am to about 5pm. Then we got home and went to the gym from 6pm-7:30pm and now we are home. I am exhausted. I can’t wait to crawl into bed and SLEEP!! Okay… until next time…

September 15th, 2008 by BlogRmom

Okay, so Mondays are my least favorite day of the week, but today was a pretty good day overall. My kiddos both had school so I dropped them off. I came back home and crawled back into bed. Since my son only goes to school until 11am I got up about 10am and headed to the shower to get dressed and off to pick him up. It was nice to get some peace and quite and extra sleep!! Loved it. I pretty much did nothing else today. Lazy lazy day. I headed off to get Mariah from school at about 2:45pm. My brother was here, but I took Alex and Xavier with me. On my way home I stopped at the pharmacy to pick up my prescriptions. I had to refill my acne cream, which is more of a preventative type lotion stuff, and my migraine pills. The funniest thing happened while I was gone!! I have to share!! Your going to die laughing!! My brother was downstairs. The dog was here but everyone else was gone. I get back and the following conversation happens:

Brother: “Does Sparky have a toy that talks or something?”

Me: “No. Why?”

Brother: “Because I kept hearing voices and something like I know you are here, I can see you. I kept coming up and looking but no one was here.  I checked the doors and they were all locked.”

Me: “Weird. I have no idea.”

Fast forward about 10 minutes. I sit down in the recliner to check my emails after I get the kids all set. Well I see my yahoo messenger has went off and it’s my friend Blythe. She’s tried to message me while I was out. Well I look a bit closer and realize, she has sent me some AUDIABLES while I was away!! I start laughing hysterically. I key her up and tell her about the conversation with my brother! I laid the laptop on the floor next to my recliner. It stays on but the screen turns off after about 3 minutes. The vent is also right there next to the recliner so he could hear this downstairs. She had sent an audible that said: “Hello? I know you’re there. I can see you!” and another that said “Whaaadddup?!” This is what my brother heard.

So my brother had already headed back downstairs, I call him up here to tell him. Of course I am laughing and I show him. I also PLAY them so he can hear them. He looks at me with his ’I am not humored by your childish’ness my dear sister’ look and rolled his eyes and walked back downstairs.

Come on… I thought it was hilarious!!!!

September 14th, 2008 by BlogRmom

It’s a boring weekend here. Not too much happening. My hubby has to work all weekend so I am home with the kids. I hate weekends like that, but it’s expecially bad this weekend.  I’ve been in the house all week long because I’ve been sick and this weekend we really can’t do anything. It’s raining and it’s not looking promising for tomorrow to be not either. Oh well. It will certainly not go down as a weekend ruined. I am planning to tackle a few of the chores I let slide all week long because I was sick. I managed a couple loads of laundry today and I mopped the dining room floor. I also spent some time online catching up on emails and other commitments I had here. So that was nice.

On another note, I talked to my mom today. Her and my dad are pretty upset. They are hurt and a bunch of other emotions. My dad has not talked to my brother since he moved in here. My mom has but my brother has been pretty closed. He’s been in my opinion a little rude at times. He does feel like he’s on his own and he shouldn’t need to rely on them for things. So he is trying not too.  However, he is taking things, in my opinion, a little over the top. My mom brought him over some new t-shirts, socks, and boxers. He was rude and told her he didn’t need them and he didn’t want them. He DID need them. She also brought him a pair of work pants. He did the same thing again. She’s hurt. I understand. I told her to stop bringing him things, but at the same time she doesn’t want too. She feels bad and she is all sorts of hurt because he is not at home. She’s not ready to let go… she’s sad… she cries alot. I am torn… I don’t know how to act and be. I try to call her and my dad and give them updates with how he’s doing so they don’t worry, even though I know they still will. I am also trying to be there for my brother too. I just don’t know.

On Thursday my brother got in an accident. He may need to contact a truck accident lawyer. He hid a school bus. YEAH! He drives a tiny little geo metro and he hit a SCHOOL BUS! Granted he was only going like 2mph and so was the bus, but it was still the fact of the matter. BOTH of them were at fault and I guess no tickets were issued but my mom and dad are worried. They don’t want it to effect their insurance. See, they have to cover him under THEIR insurance until he is 18. Then he can be on his own. I guess we will see what happens. He is okay and the car is okay and the bus is okay and everyone inside is too.

I tried to dye my hair today too. Red in the front. This isn’t a first time. I’ve had it done in the salon before but I wanted it a brighter red. I also wanted the red “chunk” to be bigger. Well I managed to get the chunk bigger but I didn’t get it brighter. I need to go to the salon supply store I think and find some TRUE red color. It will probably be a bright shock then though, but we will see. My natural color being brown it really blends in and it’s hard to see. Anyhow… Last night was a long long night. I am looking forward to getting a full nights sleep tonight. The dog was up last night and my friend’s little girl was here and she was up at 3am giggling in the living room. It was a long night… anyhow… I am off to rest before the week starts tomorrow… I can’t WAIT for school tomorrow!!

September 10th, 2008 by BlogRmom

I think the line I’ve said 1000 and 1 times on this blog has been “Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.” And it’s true. I’ve learned yet something new and rather disturbing to me. 2 of my good friends have recently been effected by adoption. They both read this blog, however their situation is MUCH different then mine. So I am not going to elaborate on that. But it did get me to thinking and I did have a talk with my mom. Back when I was a child we went through things to have my step father adopt me. But I find out now it never went through. My bio father was incarcerated at the time and for whatever the reasons the papers were never signed (with a notary) and given back to my mom and step father on time for court ANY of the times. I don’t know if this meant my bio dad was contesting it or what. My bio dad is pond scum. When I was 18 I looked him up. I carried a relationship on with him for about 1 year. He never called me. I called him. He wanted everything, but put no effort. He was excited to say I was his daughter, but in the same breath treated his new wife’s children (who were NOT his at all) better then me. I didn’t want to deal with it so I stopped calling him. Around this time I got pregnant with my daughter. He got wind of the news and started calling ALL the time. It was stalkerish and weird. I finally answered one day and asked him not to call. I wrote him a letter that basically told him my feelings and that he was NO father I wanted and the only father I knew was my step father, who was MY father and that for all sakes and purposes my child would only know THIS man as her grandpa. And it’s always been that way. Well see my bio father is a sneaky self centered asshole. He would do the very thing I am about to say. In the state of Wisconsin, we have “Grandparents Rights“. This statute states “If one or both parents of a minor are deceased and the minor is in the custody of the surviving parent or any other person, a grandparent or stepparent of the minor may petition for visitation privileges with respect to the minor, whether or not the person with custody is married. The grandparent or stepparent may file the petition in a guardianship or temporary guardianship proceeding under this chapter that affects the minor or may file the petition to commence an independent action under this chapter.” This honestly scares the SHIT of of me. I do not want him to ever see my children, let alone have visitation with them, and OH MY custody of them?!?! That would KILL me (if I wasn’t already dead).

There are ALOT of stipulations that go along with this law and it’s not as easy as it may seem, but the fact is, it very well could happen. If something happened to me, I could see my bio dad trying this. I could VERY MUCH see him trying this. Travis would fight him tooth and nail and may even put himself out on the line with the law because he knows how I feel about my bio father (who by the way was incarcerated for abuse and rap). I would never EVER want him NEAR my kids. However, if something happened to both Travis and I and the kids went to the person assigned in the Living Will that we had made, we can’t guarantee a fight wouldn’t be. That brings me to now. My adoption with my stepfather never went through. So here I sit. I’ve contacted a lawyer and I am making sure everything is all legal, but it appears the first thing that I have to do is file to have my bio father’s name removed off my birth certificate. I can do this on my own because I am over the age of 18. I do not know if there are fees or if my bio father will be notified. I do not know if he contests if that matters since I am a legal adult. The lawyer was actually going to look into some things and going to have to call me back. So I am awaiting that call. I can really leave it at this. With no father’s name on the birth certificate. I really chose not to do that though. I want to honor what my parents wanted and I want my step father to know that I do appreciate him being my father all of my life and that it HAS made and impact on me. I want him to know that my kids don’t just call him “grandpa” but that he really IS grandpa!! It’s important to me, to our family. So I will go ahead and add him to my birth certificate and finalize all of that with the adoption. I am just in shock. I am just scared. I don’t know which way to turn. I am amazed that I never thought about this before. I am scared if  something happens that this bio father freak would use his rights to defy me and everything I’ve ever believed in and taught my children. This just has to happen. It’s all too much to bear!!

On another note… I’ve been incredibly sick for the last 2 days. I am starting to feel a bit better now. The ringing in my ears has stopped, but my poor headache is still there. I finally ate some soup today. And I’ve been drinking orange juice throughout the day.  I feel run down.  I’ve slept so much in the last 2 days that I can’t even begin to count the hours. It’s crazy!! My hubby is off today and tomorrow. It’s a good thing because I can fully re-coop and have him here to help. Our wine came today from wine of the month club. Usually that is a good day for us. We will have a nice dinner and we will enjoy a glass of wine, but not tonight. It will probably sit on the cupboard for a week until I am feeling better. I don’t even have the urge. I haven’t even have Xavier this week because I’ve been so sick. Okay well I am off to lay back down. I just thought I’d blog this quickly while the thought was fresh and I was waiting for the meds to kick in again. I’ll be back to update more when I have more to say!!

September 8th, 2008 by BlogRmom

Just a couple fun quizzes I stole from my girl, Lena’s blog!! Thanks Lena for the fun quizzes!!