July 7th, 2008 by BlogRmom

Do you understand that statement? Maybe I speak a forgein language? Perhaps I didn’t make myself clear… YOU ARE N-O-T CUTTING H-E-R HAIR! Did you get it that time? Every fucking time my mother in law comes over here this discussion comes up.  She wants to cut my daughter’s hair. I say no. We fight. Everyone leaves. I am the bitch. WTF?!?! Seriously, she’s MY kid!! I will decide what gets done with her hair. The meer fact that I do not braid it or put it up everyday or do something fancy EVERYDAY doesn’t mean that it needs to be CHOPPED off. She sees my daughter 4-5 days a month… today, for example, she comes over… She’s been in the pool all day. Anything that WAS done with her hair is no longer. It’s 6pm. So let’s chop it off. Her defense? “You have short hair.” UGH! I am also a GROWN woman…

Okay let me explain.  When I was younger, my mom cut my hair short. Bobs, short hair cuts. To this day it drives me CRAZY and pisses me off that I had “boy” haircuts as a kid. I am NOT doing that to my DAUGHTER! My MIL however doesn’t care… Again I hear “You have short hair.” Someone help!! I am going insane!! So I scream “WHATEVER!” and then she proceeds to ‘explain’ this wonderful idea of a haircut she has. She wants to layer everything, cut it up around her ears, give her bangs, basically shorter then mine… Do the words ‘boy cut’ come to mind? I say calmly “I do not want her having a boy hair cut.” and I get “You have short hair, and it’s a rather butch {boy} cut.” Oh fuck you lady! Your on my LAST nerve! All the while my loving supportive asshole of a husband is agreeing with his mother, and not listening to her wonderful idea of a haircut! She storms out the door to sit in the front yard, with my BIL, his girlfriend, my FIL, my brother and the kids. This leaves hubby and I in the house. I said “Were you listening to her bright idea of a haircut or just agreeing?” He promptly says “I wasn’t listening, I don’t care.” I reply (snippy) with “Of course you don’t care. It’s easier to make me look like the asshole. Would you listen for just one minute?” He replies “I said I don’t care. It’s Mariah’s hair.” I say “So you want her to look like a boy? Because that is what your mom wants to do.” He replies “If that is what Mariah wants then let her. It will grow back.” I reply “Mariah can’t visualize what it will look like. She doesn’t understand. She thinks it’s going to look like Erica’s (BIL’s girlfriend).” He says “It’s just hair!” I reply “You are such an asshole.” and storm off into the bedroom, where I proceed to sit and read a magazine for the next 30 minutes until everyone leaves.

He then wants me to come and look at haircuts on the internet of her. PLEASE! You wouldn’t give me the time of day when *I* wanted to talk about it, you aren’t getting my time now. I know some of you are thinking this is much to little to fight about and there are bigger things in the world, but you know what it’s not entirely about the hair (for those of you that read through that above – thanks for getting it). It’s about my Mother In Law period! She is always causing drama. She’s always getting her way. I love her I do. Don’t take that the wrong way. But I *hate* that she butts into our lives and thinks *she* needs to make the decisions for us. *I* and *I* alone will decide when and IF I cut my daughter’s hair. Mariah wants her hair short. I will let her. I have no problem with that, but it will be a cute GIRL cut.

I will take her to get her hair cut this week at Cost Cutters where I go. I should add, my mother in law is a barber/beautician in a different salon. *MUAH* Or maybe I should get a passport and take off out of the country!! UGH!!